Divorce Coach In Colorado
You are not wrong for wanting out of a marriage that is no longer working.
What feels impossible is finding the right moment, the right words, and the right plan so you are not caught in a storm of anger, guilt, or pressure.
I work with people in Colorado who are stuck in this exact place. They know deep down they want a divorce. Their spouses do not. They are exhausted from arguing in circles, walking on eggshells, or pretending everything is fine.
If that is you, this page is your place to breathe, get grounded, and figure out your next move.
You are not the only one who feels this stuck
If you are scared to say “I want a divorce,” you are not alone
You might worry that you are being selfish or dramatic. You might also be afraid that once you say the words there is no way back, so you keep waiting for the “perfect moment” that never arrives.
Most people who contact me do not start with “I need a divorce coach.” They start with something like:
Here is the truth. You can care about your spouse, your kids, and your own safety and still decide that divorce is the healthiest next step. The goal is not a perfect speech. The goal is a calm, thought-through plan that protects you and your children as much as possible.
Start with a quick safety check.
Before You Say Anything, Check for Safety
Before planning any conversation, pause and notice what your body already knows. Ask yourself:
"Have there been threats toward me, the kids, pets, or themselves?"
"Do I feel unsafe when they’re angry or drinking?"
If you’re answering “yes” — or even “I’m not sure” — your safety comes first.
That may mean your next step isn’t talking to them directly.
It might mean reaching out to someone who can help you think clearly and safely:
A trusted friend, therapist, or advocate.
A domestic violence hotline for confidential support.
You don’t need to do everything today.
If you’re in Colorado, I can help you think through your situation and map out low-risk next steps.
You can also quietly gather important documents or information so you have options later.
Divorce Coach
What is a divorce coach?
A divorce coach is a thought partner who walks beside you through the messiest parts of divorce. I am not your lawyer, and I am not your therapist. Instead, I sit in the middle:
- Helping you understand your options without giving legal advice
- Helping you manage big emotions without doing therapy
- Helping you make clear, practical decisions so you don’t burn energy on constant crisis
Think of coaching as having a calm, informed person in your corner whose only job is to help you stay grounded, strategic, and true to your values as you move through this transition.
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What a divorce coach can help with
I work with any spouse or partner—women, men, and people in same-sex or non-traditional relationships—who wants a calmer, more thoughtful way through divorce.
Together, we can work on things like…
Emotional steadiness
Processing fear, anger, guilt, and grief so they don’t run the show when you are making decisions or having hard conversations.
Clarifying goals and priorities
I don’t give legal advice, but I can help you prepare for meetings with your attorney, understand the general flow of the process, and organize documents so you feel less overwhelmed.
Co-parenting and kids’ needs
Thinking through schedules, transitions, and how to talk with your children in age-appropriate ways so they feel as safe and supported as possible.
Clarifying goals and priorities
Getting clear on what matters most for you and your kids so you can make decisions that support your long-term well-being, not just short-term relief.
Communication and boundary setting
Practicing what to say (and what not to say) to your spouse, your kids, and professionals so you can reduce conflict and protect your energy.
Money and future planning
Looking at the big picture of your finances, what life might cost in two homes, and how to ask the right questions of a CDFA® or other financial professional.
Life after divorce
Planning for the “what now?”—housing, work, routines, community, and who you want to be on the other side of all this.
Colorado Divorce Mediator
How I can help you specifically
Depending on where you are in the process, we might:
- Do a one-time strategy session to plan the “I want a divorce” conversation, or another high-stakes discussion.
- Work together for a short series of coaching sessions while you move through the early stages of separation.
- Combine coaching with mediation once both of you are ready to sit at the table and work out the actual terms.
However we work together, my role is to help you stay clear-headed, prepared, and grounded so you can make decisions you’ll be proud of later—and move into the next chapter with as much peace and self-respect as possible.