Over the past 7 years I’ve supported over 200 couples through divorce — and remarkably, only a small handful of them ever ended up in court.
Why? Because most aren’t trying to win a war. They’re just trying to get through this chapter fairly — so they can move on, stay decent, protect their finances, and keep parenting effectively.
The Typical Client (you?)
You’re not a headline-case. You’re not planning to annihilate your ex. You just:
- Want clarity about money and property
- Want to protect your children’s future
- Want to finish the chapter without hating yourself or anyone else
- Understand you won’t get everything you want, but you’ll get something fair
And you’re very understandable.
The Math vs The Myth
Many people think avoiding court means “settling for less.” That’s a myth.
Here’s what research shows about cost and outcomes:
- In a study of dispute resolution methods, up to 92 % of civil cases (not just divorce) are resolved out of court. Harvard Law School
- A mediated divorce can cost a fraction of a litigated one — studies show mediation costs are often 80-90 % less. Aurit Mediation+1
- For example: in one analysis, mediation median cost was ~$6,600; full litigation ~$77,746. Lazar, Schwartz & Jones
So the real question isn’t “can we avoid court?” — it’s “how well are we going to do this together?”
Why Mediation Works (for the right people)
- Neutral, focused guidance: A mediator helps you keep the conversation moving — not the fight.
- Control: You make the decisions — not a judge who doesn’t know your family.
- Time & money efficiency: Fewer hours wasted, fewer surprises.
- Emotional preservation: You leave with dignity and a workable path forward.
The “Court” Trap
Court litigation often escalates conflict:
- Lawyers may encourage adversarial stance.
- The process drags.
- You risk outcomes that feel imposed, unfair, or chaotic.
Given the form-of-you — pragmatic, future-facing, financially literate — you’re uniquely positioned to benefit from a mediation process.
Start with The Right Mindset
Accepting that perfection isn’t coming: you won’t get everything you want. But you don’t have to get less than you should either.
You can approach this realistically:
- Recognize your financial reality.
- Accept you’ll cooperate with someone you once loved.
- Choose to start your next chapter with clarity not chaos.
Use The New Tools
To help you get grounded, I recently launched the Colorado-first divorce cost calculator. It shows what your divorce could realistically cost in a mediation model versus staying on the litigation path.
Visit [link] and check it out.
Also: for November only, I’m keeping the current flat-fee packages. Starting December, pricing will shift. If you’re ready to choose clarity, now’s the time.
Final Thoughts
You’re not a typecast “high-conflict” case.
You’re someone who cares about the future — your future, your children’s future, your financial future.
Let’s work together to get from “we need a divorce” to “we’re done
and ready for what comes next” — respectfully, efficiently, and with dignity.